[🐴] update convo list from message bus (#4189)

* update convo list from message bus

* don't increase unread count if you're the sender

* add refetch interval back

* Fix deleted message state copy

* only enable if `hasSession`

* Fix logged out handling

* increase refetch interval to 60s

* request 10s interval when message screen active

* use useAppState hook for convo resume/background

* Combine forces

* fix useFocusEffect logic

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Co-authored-by: Eric Bailey <git@esb.lol>

src/screens/Messages/List/ChatListItem.tsx

@@ -105,7 +105,9 @@ function ChatListItemReady({
     lastMessageSentAt = convo.lastMessage.sentAt
   }
   if (ChatBskyConvoDefs.isDeletedMessageView(convo.lastMessage)) {
-    lastMessage = _(msg`Conversation deleted`)
+    lastMessage = isDeletedAccount
+      ? _(msg`Conversation deleted`)
+      : _(msg`Message deleted`)
   }
 
   const [showActions, setShowActions] = useState(false)