Adjust stale-caches and dont group read&unread notifs together (#2041)

* Dont group read & unread notifications together

* Remove and reduce some stale cache times

* Keep the staleTime on the post-feed

* Bring back the load-bearing staletime on profile

src/state/queries/my-muted-accounts.ts

@@ -2,7 +2,6 @@ import {AppBskyGraphGetMutes} from '@atproto/api'
 import {useInfiniteQuery, InfiniteData, QueryKey} from '@tanstack/react-query'
 
 import {getAgent} from '#/state/session'
-import {STALE} from '#/state/queries'
 
 export const RQKEY = () => ['my-muted-accounts']
 type RQPageParam = string | undefined
@@ -15,7 +14,6 @@ export function useMyMutedAccountsQuery() {
     QueryKey,
     RQPageParam
   >({
-    staleTime: STALE.MINUTES.ONE,
     queryKey: RQKEY(),
     async queryFn({pageParam}: {pageParam: RQPageParam}) {
       const res = await getAgent().app.bsky.graph.getMutes({