Adjust stale-caches and dont group read&unread notifs together (#2041)

* Dont group read & unread notifications together

* Remove and reduce some stale cache times

* Keep the staleTime on the post-feed

* Bring back the load-bearing staletime on profile

src/state/queries/profile-lists.ts

@@ -1,8 +1,6 @@
 import {AppBskyGraphGetLists} from '@atproto/api'
 import {useInfiniteQuery, InfiniteData, QueryKey} from '@tanstack/react-query'
-
 import {getAgent} from '#/state/session'
-import {STALE} from '#/state/queries'
 
 const PAGE_SIZE = 30
 type RQPageParam = string | undefined
@@ -18,7 +16,6 @@ export function useProfileListsQuery(did: string, opts?: {enabled?: boolean}) {
     QueryKey,
     RQPageParam
   >({
-    staleTime: STALE.MINUTES.ONE,
     queryKey: RQKEY(did),
     async queryFn({pageParam}: {pageParam: RQPageParam}) {
       const res = await getAgent().app.bsky.graph.getLists({